Whether you've broken trust or had it broken — stopping the behaviour, or simply surviving the discovery, isn't enough on its own. Real repair takes more. This is where that work begins.
"You know something has to change. The question is whether you're ready to find out what that takes."
One-on-one coaching for anyone navigating problematic and compulsive sexual behaviour and betrayal — whether you're the one who broke trust or the one trying to rebuild it. Drawing on the Help Her Heal framework and APSATS-informed trauma sensitivity, sessions meet you wherever you actually are.
Includes individual disclosure preparation using the Kintsugi Restoring Truth model, when your partner is working separately with her own support.
Structured couples coaching grounded in the ERCEM method and informed by APSATS trauma-informed training — building the safety she needs to stay, and the empathy he needs to offer. Guided Full Disclosure available where appropriate, using the Kintsugi Restoring Truth model.
Paced to where your relationship actually is, not a fixed timeline.
Steven brings both professional training and a personal understanding of this work that few coaches can offer. His background includes ERCEM couples coaching, APSATS partner trauma training, and Kintsugi Full Disclosure methodology — pursued through direct consultation with Carol Juergensen Sheets and Dr. Janice Caudill, alongside an ICF coaching credential in progress.
His understanding of recovery goes deeper than the classroom. Steven has navigated his own journey through sexual addiction — including intensive residential treatment, years of 12-Step work, and the hard experience of relapse and genuine rebuilding. That path ultimately led him here: to working with men who are ready to do the real work, and with couples trying to find their footing after betrayal trauma.
Based on Vancouver Island, BC, Steven works with clients online across North America.
Developed by Carol Juergensen Sheets, ERCEM is the primary model in Steven's couples work — a structured, empathy-centered path through early recovery. Steven consults directly with Carol as part of his ongoing ERCEM training.
Developed by Dr. Janice Caudill and Dan Drake, the Restoring Truth Model guides couples through a structured, trauma-sensitive Full Disclosure process. Steven consults directly with Janice and applies this model where disclosure is appropriate — as part of couples work or with men preparing individually.
Founded by Dr. Barbara Steffens, whose doctoral research shifted the field toward treating partners of sex addicts from a trauma-informed perspective, APSATS developed the MPTM with founding board members including Dr. Janice Caudill, Marsha Means, and Ella Hutchinson. It centers nervous system safety and trauma-sensitive pacing for betrayed partners, and shapes Steven's approach to all couples work. Steven is an APSATS MPTM Trainee, consulting with APSATS-affiliated trainers as part of his ongoing training.
Carol Juergensen Sheets' structured framework for men navigating problematic and compulsive sexual behaviour — building genuine empathy, accountability, and relational capacity. Steven consults directly with Carol and applies this framework within Individual Coaching.
Nervous system safety for the betrayed partner is always the starting point — before empathy, before reconciliation.
Transparency and measurable accountability — not promises, not reassurance. Consistent, observable action.
Empathy is a skill, not an instinct. The AVR framework builds it deliberately — Acknowledge, Validate, Reassure.
Where appropriate, guided Full Disclosure is one of the most powerful tools available to a couple ready to rebuild.
What a betrayed partner is really watching for — and why stopping the behaviour is only the beginning.
↗The difference between reassurance and empathy — and how the AVR framework sequences them correctly.
↗Safety isn't willed into existence — it builds slowly through observable, consistent behaviour over time.
↗Plain language on what formal disclosure is, how it differs from trickle truth, and how to know if you need one.
↗Working with Steve was truly transformative for my recovery journey. He provided the clear structure and support I desperately needed — starting with helping me set realistic and meaningful goals. One of the most impactful areas was learning how to set and consistently stick to boundaries, which has been essential for protecting my sobriety and well-being. Beyond his expertise, Steve is an incredibly kind person and a good listener. He fosters a completely judgment-free zone, which made it safe for me to be vulnerable and fully explore different paths to healing.
Steve is a coach who always makes time for his clients and creates a safe space. He's not afraid to challenge, but he does so with grace and care to help keep us accountable. He has helped me think through challenging situations and relationships, and I'm so grateful for his support.
Steve helped me a lot with finding empathy towards my partner and other members of my family. He's never invasive, and always asks me questions that make me reflect on what and how I can do better in my interpersonal relationships with others. His guidance is without judgment, and his demeanor is always friendly and supportive.
I don't earn anything from these links. They're here because I believe in their value and use them in my work with clients.
An empathy workbook for sex addicts to help their partners heal. Used in my Help Her Heal coaching work.
Purchase on Amazon →The couples workbook that underpins the ERCEM model — a roadmap for healing the relationship after sexual betrayal trauma.
Purchase on Amazon →Steven as a featured guest on Carol Juergensen Sheets' podcast — discussing recovery, empathy, and early-stage accountability.
Watch on YouTube →An essential watch for betrayed partners — understanding what happens neurologically when trust is broken helps explain why your reactions make complete sense.
Watch on YouTube →Understanding the neuroscience of addiction helps both partners make sense of how compulsive behaviour takes hold — and what genuine recovery actually requires.
Watch on YouTube →Schedule a free 30-minute consultation to explore whether this framework is the right fit for your situation. No pressure — just a conversation.
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